You do not fall in love with people. You fall in love with attention.
It does not really matter if you like the person you have been seeing. It matters if they like you, if they give you attention, if they make you feel attractive. You care more about their feelings than your own feelings because all you want is to feel wanted. All you want is to be romanced the way women are in the movies. It does not matter who you are dating. It matters whether they make you feel beautiful, intelligent and validated.
Your standards are dangerously low.
If someone actually answers your texts and calls you pretty and treats you with respect, you feel like you have found a catch. It does not matter if there is chemistry. It does not matter if you have anything in common. The second someone treats you somewhat decently, you feel like you have won the lottery. You are so used to being treated like dirt that you think your standards have risen, but they have not risen nearly enough.
You enjoy the chase more than the actual relationship.
You like flirting. You like playing the field. You like the idea of this person more than you like the actual person. Being with them is never as beautiful as you imagined because you had an unrealistic version of them in your head. You liked the person you thought they were instead of who they really are because you were not paying close enough attention.
You are going after what you are supposed to want instead of what you really want.
You date anyone who looks good on paper. If they are somewhat attractive and work hard and say all the right things, then you give them a chance. After all, you do not want to stay single. You do not really mind being alone but you mind the way it makes you look. You mind the way others judge you over your relationship status. That is why you are more concerned with the way your relationship looks on social media than whether you are truly fulfilled.
You have absolutely no idea what you want.
You assume you know what you want because you are supposed to know what you want. You are supposed to have this figured out by now. You are supposed to be in touch with your emotions, in tune with your inner self. But you have not really stopped to consider the question. You have not really invested energy into figuring out what type of person would make you happy.
You feel pressured to find someone soon.
You are getting older. Relationships are getting more serious. So many people you know have already settled down with the love of their life and you do not want to feel like you are being left out. That is why you usually date whoever happens to come along. You do not put much thought into it. You simply go with the flow. If there is a chance to start a relationship, you take it, because why not? You might as well enter a serious relationship, too. You might as well give love a shot.
I suggest if you happen to be single or separated it is better to take time think about why your past relationship did not work or why is it too hard for you to find someone to settle with. Figure out who you real are? Who you real want? Avoid repeating same mistakes over and over it will not be good, psychologically it might affect you. However, it is okay to be picky. It is okay to really think about what would make you happy and be more selective in the dating process.
